Category Archives: Mindfulness

Breath

Your breath happens in the present moment.

You cannot breathe in the past.

You have taken breaths in the past, but your breath does not happen in the past.

You cannot breathe in the future.

There will be breaths that you take in the future, but they haven’t happened yet. You will only be aware of them when they do happen in future moments.

The only breath that you can be aware of and that you can experience is the breath that you are taking right now.

Bringing your awareness to your breath transports you instantly and effortlessly to the present moment. Why is this important? Because this moment, right now is the only moment that actually exists; it is the only moment that you can actually have awareness of. It is the only moment in which you can experience being alive.

Your breath is intrinsically connected with your aliveness. If you are not breathing, you are not alive. Whilst it is true that you can hold your breath; that you can suspend breathing for a period of time. It doesn’t take very long before your body starts screaming at you to breathe. It is impossible for you to be anywhere other than here and now when you are aware only of your breath, (even if you are holding it).

If we focus our awareness totally on one thing, then we are unable to be aware of anything else. If we do become aware of other things then we are no longer aware of our breath, we are distracted; but if we are aware only of our breath then everything else disappears. If we are aware only of our breath then there is no thought. If there is no thought then there isn’t any fear. Fear is nothing more than a thought; fear is not a real thing. If there are no thoughts then there are no judgments of the present situation. If there is no fear and no judgments, then there is no anxiety, no stress; there isn’t any unhappiness in this moment.

You experience freedom.

Fear is not a real thing; a table is a thing, an apple is a thing. Yet people believe that fear is a thing. Because they experience fearful thoughts and these generate emotional and physical reactions they believe that fear is a real thing. The truth is that fear is just an idea, a thought. Just because these thoughts are not created consciously, does not mean they are real. Why are people afraid of different things? Why do some people not seem to fear anything? The answer, because fear is not a real thing, it is a thought.

Fear is so potent because people believe that it is not something they can control. And yet by simply bringing your awareness to your breath, by suspending all thought and fear disappears. By learning to control what you hold in your awareness you can take control of fear and remove it.

Bring your awareness to your breath now. You will notice that it consists of three parts:

You breathe in.

You breathe out.

Then there is a pause.

Close your eyes and follow each of these three parts as they happen for the next few breaths. How do you feel? What happens when you become aware of the pause between breaths?

In the pause between breaths you can become aware of stillness; your mind is still, your body is still.

There is peace in the stillness of the pause between breaths.

In this moment of peaceful stillness you are just being.

You are not a human doing. You are not a human thinking. You are a human being. You can allow yourself to just BE in the pause between breaths.

Being aware of your breath is not an exercise to distract yourself from your fears and anxieties. It is the practice of letting go of “thinking” and “doing”. Of embracing the present moment and of becoming aware of what is and isn’t real. Bringing awareness to your breath is not hiding yourself from reality; it is experiencing being alive, absolutely and in this moment.

A few changes to my hypnotherapy offerings

First of all I am please to announce that I can now offer the Hypno Stress Buster (yes I know it’s a bit of a rubbish name) but it’s a 30 minute, rapid hypnotherapy, stress tackling session and for the fantastic price of just £24.99.

I have also adjusted the price of my full 1 hour hypnotherapy and mindfulness sessions, each now costs just £39.99.

Contact me today to get booked in.

Deal Mindfulness Group

The Deal Mindfulness Group is going from strength to strength. There are currently 30 to 40 people that meet every Wednesday. We practise a number of mindful exercises and I talk a bit about the benefits and techniques.

Over the last few weeks we have done some mindful moving, mindful eating and relaxed into awareness of our breathing.

It’s all very relaxed and a lot of fun, if you would like to come along please get in touch or just turn up. At the moment we are meeting every Wednesday at St Nicholas Church in Deal at 7:30pm.

Oh, and it is completely FREE!

3 top tips

There are lots of self help books out there, thousands of them in fact. Some of them are very long, and some of them are very complicated. The aim of all of them is the same, to help people to be happy.

I believe it doesn’t have to be long winded or complicated, people want it to be complicated, because then they can feel special: “Oh I’m such a complicated case, my issues are sooooo complicated and specific, I really must wallow in them and allow myself to be defined by them so that I can feel special and important and different to everybody else!”.

Of course I’m being flippant here and I don’t want to be dismissive of the fact that there are people out there who have experienced terrible things that have damaged them in really awful ways.

But even for them, and everybody else, here are my 3 top tips for being happy.

1: Stop wanting stuff.
Stop wanting stuff you don’t have or wanting stuff to be different. Accepting what you have and accepting how things are is the first step to allowing them to change.

2: Choose to be happy.
Instead of saying “I am not happy”, say “At this moment, I am choosing not to be happy”, even if you just say it in your head. Notice how you begin to think about it differently.

3: Be mindful.
Learn some mindfulness exercises, stop analysing things, stop doing things, start being.

In fact stop reading this, stop thinking this will change things. Just stop. Breathe. Feel the air flowing in and out of your body. Now, choose to be happy about the fact that you are breathing.

Bubbles

Practising the art of being is simple in theory.

Unfortunately our brains make it very difficult for us by constantly generating thoughts and ideas to distract us from what we are trying to keep in our awareness.

Don’t be frustrated or angry by this, it’s just what brains do, bless them, they can’t help it.

What you can do is treat these thoughts and ideas like bubbles.

Just by acknowledging them we can let them pop and then return our attention to whatever sense we are tuning in to at that time, or the focus on the breath.

The same technique can be applied to unwanted negative thoughts. The ones that appear at other times to make a nuisance of them selves. Just acknowledge they appeared and then let them pop like a soap bubble poked by a finger.

Given time, and with practice you may become a master of awareness. And you can actually start being aware of the thoughts and ideas as they happen, observing how you brain works. I don’t mean just letting your mind wander, but observing thoughts. Not analysing, just observing, and in so doing learning a lot about yourself. But first, learn to listen!